I am only speaking from what I know there are different levels and degrees of Autism, your child might have low functioning level 8 I am not speaking of that.
I am speaking of Level 1 Autism High functioning The one thing I notice that they all have in common is social skills, communication and behavior these 3 adjectives are always used I see a lack in social skills, quite , being alone, and making the most of it, play alone , you almost think they have someone in the room with them, they dont know how to make friends, or when they do make a friend they don know how to keep one because there interest is fixated on 1 or 2 things and thats all they talk about or they dont get jokes or sarcasm and quickly whatever friend they made is gone , because that friend can tell something is wrong with them, but if that friend would just hang in there a little bit longer with the kid with level 1 autism they would know it gets better these kids want a friend, they wanna hang out with other kids which leads into communication for level 1 its not that they cant talk its like communication and social skills go together they go hand in there because they dont get funny things at first or jokes or tell a joke correctly at first makes it hard in the social area . Behavior well they do not break rules and mostly follow rules exz would be you dont need to worry about your child coming home late or drinking before the age of 21 but you do need to worry about them crossing the street even at 13 or 15 years old sometimes they dont want to try new things because they lack confidence in them selves they are afraid they will fail . What I do Praise, encouragement . make new experiences available for them to try, ask them what they wanna try , get them involved in planning activities anything even planning 1 meal for the week ,keep telling them your proud of them , hug them , I also use slang words ,throw sarcasm around , they will never know these words unless you teach them sounds crazy but my nephew comes up with some good ones every once in awhile that makes me laugh so hard. I teach life skills just things that you will need in life dishes, chores, using a screw driver , laundry using a check book, his personal items to keep id, social security cards and why you need these things , mostly everything I do I explain or he will ask if he doesn't understand the reason or the meaning behind it , You cant yell at a kid with level 1 they will cry easily I am not perfect I try very hard not to yell I try to slowly and calmly explain things ,have I yelled yes did he cry yes , great grades in school , so many other characteristic that are typical of a teenage boy asking about girls, sex, the future, getting a job , going to some type of secondary school after high school as he gets older characteristics he had before are fading away or improving but in some degree even lessened still there he doesn't stutter any more but sometimes takes him a min or 2 to give you a answer, and they learn differently he learns best with visuals and doing it over and over again he doesn't study all week for a test , which I made him do with arguing alot about studying every single day after school but me and his teacher spoke several times after he had a test one week he got 50 2nd test he got 88 took weeks and weeks to figure out why does he get a 50 then a 88 well my nephew was correct he does better on a test if he doesn't study sounds crazy but true so now he only study's on Thursday the night before a test , I am no expert I learn as I go and I can only do my best to get him the best and to set him up for a good job not sure what that will be yet, we know he likes food and computers or so we think as the next year rolls around I think we will have a better idea, I hope so next year I will need to dig around for certificate programs for people with disabilities, its no easy task it takes digging I know it will be payed for that I have found and I have that paper taped to my wall ,,,
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I recently heard someone say on a video, I f you meet 1 person with autism then you have only met 1 person with autism, people say oh I know what it is but they really dont , Autism is characterized, in varying degrees, by difficulties in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication and repetitive behaviors. but you dont need to have all of these and they dont need to be severe everyone is different
.ASD can be associated with intellectual disability, difficulties in motor coordination and attention estimated 1 out of 42 boys and 1 in 189 girls are diagnosed with autism in the United States. Most cases of autism, however, appear to be caused by a combination of autism risk genes and environmental factors influencing early brain development. Each individual with autism is unique. Many of those on the autism spectrum have exceptional abilities in visual skills, music and academic skills. About 40 percent have average to above average intellectual abilities.Others with autism have significant disability and are unable to live independently. About one third of people with ASD are nonverbal but can learn to communicate using other means Social Skills Your child may have problems using social skills to connect with other people. He may seem to be in his own world. It may be hard for him to
Are you making a list of summer activies? do it the summer goes by so fast and before you know it it will be school shopping and back to school again. sit done wth your teenager and make a list of things you wanna see and do, places you would like to see and visit, then put them on a poster board and as you do them mark them off its actually kinda fun and exciting , we have been working on our summer list
looks like its gonna be a busy summer for everyone. We have another baby coming any day now, and we have summer activities that he the teenager has signed up for which is another step forward in the right direction its amazing very proud of him really growing up and trying things, and volunteer work yes they are required to do that now in order to graduate but I have some good volunteer work picked out so it wont be so horrible it will be fun , he has his electives picked out for next school yea and i cant believe one course he will be taken is trigonometry, I cant even fathom that.
It started by him telling them no he wasnt going then I happened to see a email saying $20 was due for the dance and the dead line had passed by a week. well if you knew me you know I talked with him and said he should go, it was a night out to have fun and he might regret later that he didnt go, I told him there would be food there and that sold him right there, so I sent in the money and we were all set.
The dance was located in a different city a hr away we all me up was treated to time for pictures and appetizers, the boys got carnations and a school bus took them to the destination, girls were asking him are you gonna dance and he said yes Im gonna dance wow!!!off they went and he came home at 11pm smiling, he said he would go again, he is growing Developmental MilestonesThis is a time of changes for how teenagers think, feel, and interact with others, and how their bodies grow. Most girls will be physically mature by now, and most will have completed puberty. Boys might still be maturing physically during this time. Your teen might have concerns about her body size, shape, or weight. Eating disorders also can be common, especially among girls. During this time, your teen is developing his unique personality and opinions. Relationships with friends are still important, yet your teen will have other interests as he develops a more clear sense of who he is. This is also an important time to prepare for more independence and responsibility; many teenagers start working, and many will be leaving home soon after high school.
Here is some information on how teens develop: Emotional/Social Changes Children in this age group might:
Developmental MilestonesThis is a time of many physical, mental, emotional, and social changes. Hormones change as puberty begins. Most boys grow facial and pubic hair and their voices deepen. Most girls grow pubic hair and breasts, and start their period. They might be worried about these changes and how they are looked at by others. This also will be a time when your teen might face peer pressure to use alcohol, tobacco products, and drugs, and to have sex. Other challenges can be eating disorders, depression, and family problems. At this age, teens make more of their own choices about friends, sports, studying, and school. They become more independent, with their own personality and interests, although parents are still very important.
Here is some information on how young teens develop: Emotional/Social Changes Children in this age group might:
Positive Parenting TipsFollowing are some things you, as a parent, can do to help your child during this time:
Amazing, well in order to get a social security card you need a ID well just so happens in my state a child 14 yrs old and older can get a state ID at the rmv, well he got it and something about that picture ID just made him smile from cheek to cheek he is so proud that he has this, it makes him feel more and more grown up. so glad that is taking care of check that off my list, with that applied for a social security card and that was sent to us he signed it and thats done check that off the list. with that comes the explaining of what is a social security card?, why do we need it? and also the explanation which I did prior about signatures and why a hand written signature is important and to keep it the same and how do you want to sign your signature with a middle initial or not?and documents in your life that will require your signature and social security number. next on the list of things to do is his own savings account at the bank, with his own name on it. he is very intrigued with a credit card, I explained its not free money you have to pay it back I told him we will worry about that later in life lets established savings first and a relationship with the bank and show a history of saving money. Its funny the questions teenagers have about life, but its good and shows they are learning and growing I would rather have questions instead of just doing it with out asking
It hasn't been the easiest road. Thank god I research things and cross reference and make calls. I probably wouldn't of got any where if I didn't, People make it sound easy oh call this agency or do this and that. No not that easy. let me begin with my nephew never really got a clear diagnosis it was always guessing oh it sounds lie this oh he will grow out of it or whatever. but grow out of what and sounds like what?? whats that mean? first thing after the IEP by the school, they also do a big psych eval which is different types of testing for IQ, social emotional comprehension, etc.,,,,and thats how the IEP begins which you meet with IEP team once a year to plan the school year. Then theirs the outside professional much better than a school eval , eval, which is usually private pay sometimes the Ins company will pay, this eval gives you a diagnosis , this eval weighs more with agencies and services you might be eligible for. Then theirs the 3 year eval under the IDEA act that your child with a IEP is suppose to have done by the school it sees how far they have come its all that testing all over again. In my cAse, my nephew was due for his 3 year eval the school kept saying next year even tho I had the last eval which was over 3 years old long story short I won that bAttle. that eval is scheduled but reaching this point you feel like your not getting anywhere, you feel like I give up, you feel like how can I do this Dont give up, Im telling you, you have to know your rights there are so many agencies in each state that will help and yes its a matter of finding them. I am finally like because this Dr who is doing the eval knows a professional that we know and now someone finally knows exactly what Im looking for the questions I want answered, and what the future possible holds so this is free from the school. In the mean time all that waiting for the outside eval well I got that call just 2 days ago and they(Ins Co) approved that eval so I went from arguing for a eval to being on a waiting list to 2 evals scheduled, which is perfectly legal to do. from this I will know our next move, I think it will finally all work out
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